5 Things I Tell Every Woman Struggling with Anxiety
Let me guess—you’re smart, capable, busy… and your mind never seems to shut off.
You overthink everything. You replay conversations. You feel like you're constantly juggling a million things—but still worry you're dropping the ball somewhere.
Yeah. I’ve been there.
And as a therapist (and a fellow anxious woman), I talk to women like you every single day.
So today, I want to pull back the curtain and share 5 things I always say to the women I work with—the reminders we all need when anxiety is running the show.
1. You’re not broken—and you’re not alone.
Anxiety can make you feel like you're the only one who can't "handle life." But you’re not weak. You’re not dramatic. You’re not failing.
You're human. And you're doing your best with a nervous system that’s just a little overactive right now.
This isn't a personality flaw—it’s a pattern. And patterns can be changed.
2. Anxiety shows up when something matters.
You're anxious because you care. About your people. Your work. Your future.
That’s not something to feel ashamed of—it’s something to honor.
Anxiety is just your brain trying (a little too hard) to protect you from pain or failure. The goal isn’t to get rid of it—it’s to learn how to respond differently when it shows up.
3. Coping skills are helpful—but skill-building is the real game-changer.
Sure, a hot bath or walk outside helps. But lasting change? That comes when you start shifting your inner dialogue, recognizing your patterns, and practicing new responses—even when it’s hard.
This is where therapy or coaching makes a huge difference. You don’t just vent—you learn how to retrain your brain.
4. You don’t have to “fix” everything to feel better.
You can still feel anxious and take the next right step.
You can be scared and still show up.
You don’t have to wait until your mind is quiet to live the life you want.
Progress starts when you stop trying to eliminate anxiety—and start learning how to move with it.
5. The goal isn’t perfection—it’s peace.
Let go of the idea that you have to be “on” all the time, or handle everything with a smile.
Peace comes when you stop fighting yourself. When you stop over-functioning. When you get honest about what’s working—and what’s not.
And I promise… it’s possible. Even if it doesn’t feel like it yet.
If any of this hits home, I want you to know you’re not alone in this.
Whether you’ve just downloaded my Scripts for the Anxious Mind available in my FREE group or you’re ready for a deeper dive—there’s support here when you’re ready.
We don’t have to white-knuckle our way through life anymore.
We can do this differently.
And it starts with one small shift at a time.
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Laurie
Anxiety Therapist + Coach
LaurieWhiteCounseling.com